Why the obgyn office is the devil to women with infertility

Anytime I have to go to the obgyn I can't help but think of how much I hate it.

I prefer going to my fertility specialist over the obgyn and this is why..


The fertility specialist:

• It's their job to help me conceive. 
• The DR, nurses, lab tech, receptionist..they are all friendly and want you to succeed.
• The waiting room is cozy with couches and pillows. And they have water and coffee while you wait.
• The ultrasound rooms are dimly lit, comfortable, and they have actual fabric blankets to cover your lower half.
• Everyone in the waiting room is typically not pregnant.
• Everyone in the waiting room usually gives each other nervous shy smiles. I can only imagine what is going through their minds. Probably the same as me which is "I'm so sorry we both have to be here."
• Once the DR comes in, they go over everything with you and they are never in a rush.
• The DR and nurses actually listen to you and your concerns.
• They have compassion and try to give you hope.

The obgyn:

• Their main job is to help pregnant women. Therefore everyone in the waiting room is pregnant.
• The receptionists aren't friendly and have a glass window they slide open so they can talk to you.
• The waiting room is uncomfortable.
• The obgyn usually spends less than 5 minutes talking with you.
• The rooms are brightly lit, uncomfortable, and they give you tissue paper-like blankets to cover your lower half.
• If you mention your infertility, you normally get comments like "I know someone who adopted and then BAM they were pregnant!" or "Oh don't worry, you'll be pregnant next time I see you."
• Did I mention everyone in the waiting room is pregnant?
• Everyone in the waiting room is pregnant!